For a long time, I took my mental health for granted. To be honest I didn’t even know what that meant. Anything that affects your psychological and emotional well being is not good. It took a couple of close family and friends to go through certain situations in their lives for me to realise that I was really joking with my own mental health. I am not talking about madness. I guess that’s the very extreme case. Please take care of yourselves. Conditions such as stress, depression, and anxiety can all affect mental health and disrupt our daily routine.

In the earliest part of the year I struggled to keep my sanity in check. Too many headaches and mild illnesses. I was really struggling. But in all of this, I kept a strong front. I’d smile, post funny memes on my status, laugh with my friends and family, make time for THEM but never made time for me. I was struggling. It affected my relationships, my work and I had to postpone lots of things planned for including reviving my blog.

We underestimate mental health a big deal in this part of the world and its so wrong. Have you ever taken some time off to do absolutely nothing? Have you taken REST? I mean proper rest? Not the kind we lie to ourselves we’re taking and end up doing chores in between. Take it easy on yourself. I’ve not done a good job doing that myself but thank God I am doing that now. There are a lot of times when I have become so vulnerable that I cried. I mean real hot messy tears streaming down my face. Believe me if I had spoken about it with someone I trusted, tears would not have flowed. Damn! Listen, Don’t be Ashamed, Embarrassed or Afraid to speak out when you are suffering emotionally or psychologically. All too often, these emotions stop us from sharing our mental health concerns with people we trust.

I have felt like quitting my job at least 4 times alone this year. I have nearly given up on assignments cos I had a lot going on in my life. Certain life decisions made me think and think to the point where I thought I would be better off not making them or ending certain important relationships! I don’t think I have grieved enough over my Dad’s death. I still remember it fresh like it happened yesterday! Clearly I’m still grieving right? hmm…

Stress is a major factor. It is the real devil there. I jokingly tell myself that “I cannot come and kee (Kill) myself’ when certain situations are beginning to weigh down on me. That alone lightens up my mood. At least for a couple of minutes by which I would have thought of how to proceed without all the anxiety that would have come with it. I couldn’t help but smile warmly at an instagram story I chanced upon of a lady I follow. It resonated so much with me.

Source: @eudoraleonore

If this ain’t the truth! Wheew!

I took some time off work to really rest and recharge my batteries. Well basically to do absolutely nothing. I know it’s gonna do me a whole lot of good. I am beginning to take care of me too. Showing myself all the love and attention my body needs. For this period I plan on being very selfish with my time. Yup!
Listen, Take care of yourself! Remember that it is not selfish to want to be by yourself or take a break. Even if you’re a parent. This applies to you too. Don’t feel guilt ridden when you want to take solo trips or vacations without your family. If this is what helps you refuel and stay sane absolutely do that!

Have I made sense so far? Have I won you over? Ah well, if you have read to this point, I must have done good then. lol.

Guys, I really appreciate everyone who takes time out to read my blog. This is what keeps me sane. So I will continue to be poking you with my awesomeness. Lol.

With love and please take care of YOU!

Remember, your mental health is YOUR responsibility.

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ThatAshantiGirl

7 Comments

  1. I understand the grief over you dad’s passing, i still cry when i remember my mum telling me to do something special for her on the last mother’s day before she passed. I shared my plans with her which she rejcted, i should have sat with her and aaked what she really wanted. Barely a month later she passed. The guilt and pain alone is enough but i doubt anyone has ever made peace with a loved ones passing but they all learn to live with it. So cheer up we’ve got you.

    1. Thanks Sali! I guess for me it’s still not accepting the fact that he’s gone! He was a wonderful dad! He should have lived a longer life. Why do good people go too soon? Soo many questions. At least it’s comforting to know that he’s in no more pain and in a better place. Thanks for reading! ❤️. This came from the heart!

  2. Share your awesomeness Sister 🙌😄
    This write speaks to me a lot. I have not taken care of myself for almost two years…always lied to myself that when I make that dough everything will be fine. Now one of my prime projects is taking shape beautifully but the last time I saw the work I realized I was not happy like expected.
    I put so much pressure on myself I don’t get to enjoy the fruits of my labour but now I am making time to take care of myself….
    God grant us peace and my the soul of your Dad and Kwadwo rest in peace.

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